“Casting lots causes contentions to cease, and keeps the mighty apart. A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city, and contentions are like the bars of a castle” (Proverbs 18:18-19).
One of the fastest ways to damage the blessing of intimacy God implanted in marriage is to mishandle disagreements and differences. When these spiral into contentions and offenses, a couple is heading into the possibility of permanent marital scar tissue.
By divine design, men and women are different (Gen. 2:22). For a lock and key to be complementary to each other, they must be different. These differences should be cause for joy in marriage (Prov. 5:18), not combat.
Because of these fundamental differences, though, disagreements and differing perspectives are inevitable. They must be handled wisely. When handled foolishly, deep wounds result; scar tissue in marriage is like the bars of a castle—hard to overcome.
Jesus’ counsel is always prompt reconciliation (Mat. 5:23-26). If you sinned, confess it. Your marriage is far more important than your pride. If you need to figure out a mutually acceptable compromise, then do it. Your marriage and the potential joy and blessing of emotional intimacy is worth it.
